It was about 3 months ago when my life began to change drastically.
We lived across the street from my mother-in-law for years. But she had battled cancer for the last ten years. And we began to see how her health was deteriorating. So she made the difficult decision to move in with us and allow us to be her full-time caregivers.
We were happy to do it.
As hard as it was to juggle it all some days, we had no idea how hard it would be to carry on the homestead when she passed. We lost her only a few weeks ago, and I realized then that homesteading through grief was a whole new ballgame.
So today, I want to share with you how we’ve been pushing forward with our dreams during such a difficult time. If you’re ever faced with loss, hopefully, these tips will help you too.
And I will state clearly upfront, I am not certified in any way as a counselor or psychiatrist. This is just my honest experience and the things I have found that have helped myself and my family during a difficult time.
So this is how we’ve tried to hold it together during our time of loss:
1. Take Some Time Off
Though my mother-in-law had been sick for many years, we never dreamed she’d go as quickly as she did. She had actually been on a vacation with some girlfriends to the mountains (completing her bucket list) when we got a call at 2:30am to come to the ER.
And we never dreamed only 4 short days later she’d leave us. But that is exactly what happened. We were posted at the hospital almost around the clock.
But after she passed, we made the drive home and fell apart emotionally. And we did the same thing over and over for a few days until we made it through the funeral and a few days after that.
So during those days we did only what we absolutely had to do. We fed our animals and that was about it. My husband took a week off from his day job.
But I did keep writing. I think, mainly, because it allowed me to shift my mind to something else instead of dealing with the reality at hand.
And the rest of the time was spent making funeral arrangements, spending time with family, and grieving when we needed to.
So we basically spent our time off learning how to cope. And taking time off ended up being a great thing for us.